DEAR AMY: My husband and I own a small family business, but we don’t run the day-to-day operation. We started the business with one of our sons, and he worked very hard for the first three or so years. But he started slacking off about three years ago, feeling as if he had “earned” the right to work when (and if) he wanted. The last 18 months he has hardly worked at all. He has done nothing to help the company’s bottom line, even though we’ve struggled financially. So, after consulting counselors and a lawyer through this ordeal, we have decided that we must let him go. He will receive his pay…